Over the years, I have worked with many clients, and with many different issues that affect their lives and impact on their relationships, work, and other areas.
I have found that there is a thread in all of their stories and in their struggles. There is also a thread in the way we work through these struggles in each of their individual therapeutic processes.
This thread is something that I find important in my life as well, but that I have seen has a great impact in my clients’ lives and relationships.
That thread relates to Boundaries, Self-Care, and what the client needs for themselves and from those around them.
It sounds easy, right? But trust me, it is something that us humans are not very good at, especially when we are told it is selfish or rude to set clear boundaries and to do things that mean we are taking care of ourselves. I challenge that in the therapy room, and work through what keeps clients from finding their truth and sticking to it.
Whether it be something more practical like getting stuck with all the cleaning in the house and wanting to ask their partner to help out as they live there too, or something less visible like needing to say no to an invitation due to needing time alone to recharge their energies when social contact gets too much, or other more difficult issues to work through like domestic abuse, for example.
These are things that I can help with – setting boundaries, finding ways to look after yourself, and finding out what you need and want out of life and relationships – within the greater context of the current situation that brings you to counselling.
Counselling involves a way of relating in the room that might be a bit different from other relationships.
The topics of conversation are about you, and it’s about helping you make sense of what brings you to see me in the first place.
Very few personal information about myself will be disclosed. I believe this is important as part of the therapeutic process, and helps us focus on what is really important: your distress and how to help you go through it and to a better place in life.
Due to the nature of the topics discussed, I believe the first few sessions should be used as a way of establishing a safe and confidential environment for you to feel comfortable to disclose personal information thatyou might be struggling with.
Once an environment of safety and trust is established, we can continue with the focus of our work, which is guided by your discourse, and by my interventions whenever I find something that might link us to the origin of the problem, so we can continue exploring and figuring out how to move forward with the new information being brought up throughout the therapeutic process.
It is important to note that it is an organic, ever-moving process, from the initial contact to the final session and even beyond that (the work that we do in the room will carry on even after our sessions have ended).
I work within the psychodynamic theoretical framework, in the way I think about the material presented, but as I’ve had training in other modalities, have the ability to grab on to that knowledge and use it to the best advantage of each one of my clients.
My approach is individualised and person-centred in the sense that I will treat each client as an individual, making sure that the person sitting in front of me gets the best treatment for their particular problem and situation they bring to the room.
I would like to point you towards the BACP’s Ethical Framework for the counselling professions, which is the ethical code that guides my practice.